Be more happy!

(Also refer to the article in LIFE magazine by Glynis Horning, Summer 2013 were Erasmustherapy was quoted).

The complexity of comparison, materialism and filling your life with “stuff” drives ‘relative happiness’ while simplicity of life may drive true happiness.

Happiness is a choice. We choose to have positive or negative thoughts, which in turn affect the outcome of our perceived happiness. We choose what to react on and how we do.

  1. Take some action. That old thing – the more you do, the more you have time for. Depressed people generally are passive while successful or happy people seem to be constructively busy most of the time.
  2. Work with your talents. Your talents enable you to do GREAT what others do just GOOD. This is bound to make you feel good.
  3. Don’t compare yourself with others. Sometimes comparing actually helps when putting in the bigger picture. Sure the super model has a great body but she has a miserable life when it comes to tasting that fabulous cheese cake.
  4. Rephrase failure. Make it rational by writing it down to gain perspective. Then you feel less emotional and learn from it.
  5. Grow gratitude. This helps and creates a positive outlook on life and its adversities.
  6. Spread kindness. This makes you feel better as well.
  7. Expand on your social support network. If you want to soar with eagles, you have to surround yourself with them. This applies to real friends, while social networking (e-friends) may give you a lot of contact and stimulate thoughts and conversation. But, it may also only give you “e-happiness”.
  8. Add regular physical exercise to your weekly routine. You will also feel good as you have achieved something.
  9. Schedule good times each day. This way you control your day, instead of your diary controlling you and your day.
  10. Enjoy the moment. Being in the present chase away anxiety and stress. They love the past and the ‘what ifs’ from the future.
  11. Start today! There is no time like now. Set yourself a goal and work toward fulfilling it. When it’s done, set a new goal and do the same.